Date Lab Georgetown: Reciprocation problems
After reading the surveys sent in by this week’s daters, Vox prepared for comedic, lively stories from the two. Describing herself, Annie Baran (COL ’13) said, “Laughing is epic, and I have a very sarcastic sense of humor and quote Dane Cook/Mitch Hedberg all the time.” She believed a guy might fall for her given that she’s, “hilarious and can have a real conversation.” Not only that, but much like the typical Georgetown student, she says, “I think I’m awesome and I’m obviously intellectual or I wouldn’t be here.”
Who wouldn’t fall for a funny girl who also has the ability to tickle your intellectual curiosities? Patrick Eronini (NHS ’12) seemed like he definitely would. He wrote that “a woman’s personality, intellect, demeanor, and [the] way she treats people,” are, for him, the best qualities for a potential relationship. He also said that when he finds his significant other, “I hope that they are different as far as just being able to balance me out, and be my other intellectual half.”
So, could a Classics Major looking for an “intelligent, charming” guy complete this pre-med Nursing major’s other half? Vox thought so…
Patrick was sitting in the coffee shop before Annie arrived. He recalls, “When we just met each other I feel like when she saw me she took more of a reserved and negative attitude to the rest of the date. I guess I feel like as soon as she saw me, she kind of took a step back.”
Annie remembers their conversation that followed being “kind of like rapid fire.” She says, “I felt it was very business-y and rushed in a way, and from that I kind of like knew pretty soon that it wasn’t going to lead anywhere because we didn’t seem to have a lot in common.”
For his part, Patrick had pretty a different take on how their conversation went. “Even if she wouldn’t say anything, I would try to make a statement about myself, but she wasn’t reciprocating conversation so I couldn’t just sit there and talk on and on and on. It was awkward because I would just ask a question and she would give an answer and just sit there.”
What happened? Vox had hoped for witty repartee, but instead we got a pairing that could barely have a conversation with each other.
Annie said she “felt pretty bad because it went to silence pretty quickly and we were just kind of scrambling for things to talk about.”
How could a conversation between two people who watch the same television shows and have unique backgrounds and personalities come to a dead halt? Perhaps, as Patrick said, “I don’t think it’s fair to say that we were opposites, but we didn’t really have anything in common. I felt like I was a lot more outgoing than she was. She seems like someone that was more reserved.”
We think it’s fair to say that the two agreed there was no spark—on the contrary, Vox thinks it may have tried to start a fire with a soaking wet match.
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Thanks to Uncommon Grounds for providing the free food and drinks. Photographs from the daters.