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Dear Emlyn,

I don’t know what to do because I am really frustrated with my roommate, who also happens to be one of my closest friends here (or was at least). First semester we were very close, but now looking back I think the reason we were inseparable is because we both didn’t feel like we had a place for ourselves at Georgetown. This semester I have really tried to branch out because I wanted to be happier and enjoy my time here more, but she apparently didn’t feel the same way. She is negative about Georgetown and creates a negative atmosphere in our room, which I resent her for. She’s not easy to talk to, because she is an extremely defensive and sarcastic person, so I don’t know what to do. Should I just try to separate myself and create space? It’s hard since we live together and I thought we were close friends!

Thanks!
Frustrated & Annoyed

F&A,

The thing about college is that there’s so many fucking people in one confined place. Seriously, who are all of you guys? Are there really this many humans on the earth? Before college I thought there were like 150 people and I had met them all at dance class or my parents’ boozy dinner parties. Anyway, it’s really hard for lovely/friendly/perfect people like you and me to fully accept that you can’t, and probably shouldn’t, be friends with everybody. Hard to grasp, yes, but honestly it’s one of the most important lessons you could learn in college. You’ve got limited time to socialize and an unlimited sea of people who have all tweeted/Facebooked “HOYA SAXA” at some point in time but are otherwise very diverse – you’ve got to be a little choosey. Try to find friends who share your interests, values, sense of humor, and the like.

I’m not saying to practice your bitchface in the mirror this weekend and be a snob to people who bump into you at Leo’s, all in the name of being “choosey.” But I’m saying that if someone is negatively affecting your enjoyment of Georgetown and your cheery disposition, don’t feel obligated to be their BFF just for the sake of being everyone’s BFF. You can (and should) be friendly – invite her along every once and a while, bring up what you love about school, be generally supportive and concerned for her health and wellbeing – but if you two end up not getting along or not connecting on something, it’s not the end of the world. If you want a positive experience at Georgetown, make it happen instead of wasting away in the midst of her negativity.

Hey Emlyn,
I have a problem that I feel most people wouldn’t classify as a huge one but it’s starting to get to me. I live in a 4 person dorm and over the last semester my roommates have not been helping me clean. We have our own bathroom and a kitchenette area that I consider “common spaces” and I think everyone should contribute to these spaces. However, I’m the ONLY one doing this! I work about 20 hours a week, I am involved on campus, and on top of that think of all the hours we students spend trying to study!! I can’t find time to clean all the time! I want them to help. I’ve been direct in my approach… like literally saying “we all need to contribute to cleaning” or “could you do the bathroom this week I have a paper?” Let me just say I am by no means a neat freak. My personal space is a mess but I keep it confined to my space. I need your help in getting everyone involved in cleaning because I get too overwhelmed with my own stuff to do it all the time and I just refuse to take a shower and have the water turn black because of rings in the toilet. HELP US GET CLEAN enough!

Regards,
AnnoyedtoClean

Annoyed,

LET THEM DROWN IN THEIR OWN FILTH.

Just kidding. I’m unfortunately one of those people who doesn’t clean as often as they should (sorry roommates), but let me see what I can do for you. Your roommates probably don’t ignore their cleaning duties to spite you, but they’re probably just busy like you are and let it slide since they’re more focused on schoolwork or scoring biddies or whatever college is about. The reason people don’t clean when they live with multiple roommates is the same reason that people pee in pools – there’s no accountability. Think what a different world it would be if the water really did turn purple or something whenever some kid pissed in it.  Revolutionary.

I think it’d work a lot better if you held your roommates accountable for their cleaning responsibilities; make a chore chart and rotate who’s assigned to what duty each week. You can create a reward system – ie: if everyone does what they’re assigned, you get to eat dinner at Tombs together, host a party in your apartment the following weekend, or buy each other cupcakes. The other option is creating a punishment system, which is arguably more fun – if someone doesn’t do their assigned duty, threaten to give them a lap dance or force them to eat an entire plate of Leo’s seafood. Or something else, apparently I’m not very good at coming up with punishments. Give that a try, and if it doesn’t work I guess just let them drown in their own filth. Just kidding?

 

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